Engagement season is well underway and I can’t be the only one who’s excited! It’s such a wonderful time of the year as it signifies new beginnings and a truly life changing moment in the lives of many couples. Some of these couples dive head first into planning while others may be leaning towards a quick trip to the Justice of the Peace. However, I think everyone should plan a wedding- even if it’s just a small intimate celebration with a few family members and friends. Here’s why:
1. Planning a wedding will give you a glimpse into how your partner behaves under pressure. Wedding planning is a time to learn about your partner’s temperament. It’s the first big event you’ve hosted together and I promise, everyone else will know how you should do it, who should be there, what you should wear, and what should be served. How do you, as a couple deal with that? How do you manage deadlines? Spending? Is your partner demanding? Selfish? Spoiled? Are they an active participant in the upcoming nuptials? Are they excited? Whatever their behavior, you’ll get to witness it and decide how it makes you feel before you get married.
2. You’ll be forced to talk about finances. Although talking finances is a no-brainer if you intend to be married, if you have to plan a wedding, finances are not a conversation you can skip. If your families aren’t footing the bill, how will you pay for this wedding? What can you two afford to spend? What happens if you go over budget? Will you use credit? Do you even have credit to use? *boop*
3. It’ll help you navigate the relationships with your in-laws. The wedding is the moment when two families become one. Of course, your families will want to be involved…maybe even more involved than you would like. #weddingproblems Who’s going to tell his parents they can’t invite 60 people? They’ll be upset. How will you two navigate this? And when your brother doesn’t like him, but you want him to be a groomsmen, how will you bring it up? What if the groom says no? Whatever the decision is, for best results, you’ll have to approach it as a team. It’s good practice for marriage.
4. Which brings me to….compromise! There will be lots of it. All the time. For the rest of your life. Might as well get started in the beginning. He doesn’t like pink. It’s your favorite color. He wants fried chicken at the reception, and you don’t consider that tasteful. You want a barnyard, he wants a ballroom. How will you make your partner comfortable without completely disregarding your own feelings? Compromise! I promise this will come in handy when you’re decorating your first home.
5. Finally, it’ll get you prepared for real life hardships. If you don’t think wedding planning is a hardship, ask anyone who’s every done a guest list.
When all is said and done, you’ll feel so accomplished. #TeamYall