Last week, we shared some innovative and FUN invitations and talked a bit about what you could do to be a better host. You can check out that post here. With wedding season approaching and there being far more guests than hosts, we figured we’d tackle the other side as well. So here are some tips to be a better along with some equally fun invites to get you inspired for your next event.
Always read (and decode) the whole invite: The invitation will explicitly give you some of the event details. Others may be just a clue. For instance, if it says cocktail party, that means cocktail attire is expected, drinks will be served, there will food, but no full meal. If it says backyard BBQ, then chances are it’s a more causal event, food will be in abundance, and heels may not be the best option. If you’re not sure, ask.
Always respect the occasion and your host: If an event says formal, DRESS UP. If it’s a pajama party, where pajamas. Costume party, wear a costume. Ugly sweater? Wear one. Parties are much more fun (and it’s so much easier on your host) when everybody participates. On this same note, parties are not the place to be anti-social. Be kind to other guests. Bring a great attitude. Mingle. Twerk. Have a drink. Put your phone down and make a friend! Be on your (mostly) best behavior. Don’t embarrass your friends by causing drama at their event. Don’t get sloppy drunk. Remember, the way you behave is often seen as a reflection of the person that invited you. Make them look good!
Be on time: Who likes to wait an hour for an event to “really” start? I did a little research on this and one post was very specific. If an event is to begin at 6:00pm you should arrive between 6:00 and 6:08pm. Your host will probably be preparing up until the very moment the party begins. Showing up too early may throw a wrench in their plans and cause them to slow down to accommodate you during this valuable time of preparation. However, if you are meeting a group at a restaurant, being on time is important as many establishments will not seat a group until most, if not all of the party is present.
Stay until it’s over, but don’t overstay your welcome: Try to stay until the end of an event, but don’t hold your hosts up either. Consider this, your host has spent weeks or months to plan a party. It’s a little hurtful when suddenly, you have things that are more important than staying at this well planned event. Alternatively, when the night is winding down, unless you’re helping, don’t be a straggler. Your hosts may very well be tired and want to wind down and clean up after what has been a long day.
Don’t neglect to RSVP: Unless the invite specifies, let your host know YES or NO before the specified deadline. If you really want to go, but don’t want to commit to a full evening or if you already have another event, it’s completely appropriate to say so when you RSVP, because NOBODY likes it when you eat and run.
Bring a gift: Although I do think gifts are nice, I’m the kind of host that will take care of everything when I invite people over, which means I expect that when I come to your house. Our friends host lost of events and rarely ask us for anything, so in return, we like to host things for them. However, bringing a little something for your host is a nice gesture. My personal suggestion would be wine or chocolates. Just enough for the host and their family to enjoy. This way, when they done, they don’t have to figure out where to put this or that. I’m not too taken on having my house full of random useless items.
ALWAYS ask if it’s okay for you to bring a guest (or kids): FYI, a wedding invite does not mean an automatic +1. Unexpected guests can make it difficult to plan for food and could completely disrupt the seating arrangement. Try to avoid these uncomfortable situations by simply being considerate.
Say hello and goodbye: Please don’t leave without saying goodbye or saying thank you to your host.
As always, have a fantastic time and enjoy your family and friends.
Featured image from Ijorere.