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5 Reasons Why Couples Should Plan a Wedding

Engagement season is well underway and I can’t be the only one who’s excited! It’s such a wonderful time of the year as it signifies new beginnings and a truly life changing moment in the lives of many couples. Some of these couples dive head first into planning while others may be leaning towards a quick trip to the Justice of the Peace. However, I think everyone should plan a wedding- even if it’s just a small intimate celebration with a few family members and friends. Here’s why:

 

1. Planning a wedding will give you a glimpse into how your partner behaves under pressure. Wedding planning is a time to learn about your partner’s temperament. It’s the first big event you’ve hosted together and I promise, everyone else will know how you should do it, who should be there, what you should wear, and what should be served. How do you, as a couple deal with that? How do you manage deadlines? Spending? Is your partner demanding? Selfish? Spoiled? Are they an active participant in the upcoming nuptials? Are they excited? Whatever their behavior, you’ll get to witness it and decide how it makes you feel before you get married.

 

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2. You’ll be forced to talk about finances.  Although talking finances is a no-brainer if you intend to be married, if you have to plan a wedding, finances are not a conversation you can skip. If your families aren’t footing the bill, how will you pay for this wedding? What can you two afford to spend? What happens if you go over budget? Will you use credit? Do you even have credit to use? *boop*

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3. It’ll help you navigate the relationships with your in-laws. The wedding is the moment when two families become one. Of course, your families will want to be involved…maybe even more involved than you would like. #weddingproblems Who’s going to tell his parents they can’t invite 60 people? They’ll be upset. How will you two navigate this? And when your brother doesn’t like him, but you want him to be a groomsmen, how will you bring it up? What if the groom says no? Whatever the decision is, for best results, you’ll have to approach it as a team. It’s good practice for marriage.

 

4. Which brings me to….compromise! There will be lots of it. All the time. For the rest of your life. Might as well get started in the beginning. He doesn’t like pink. It’s your favorite color. He wants fried chicken at the reception, and you don’t consider that tasteful. You want a barnyard, he wants a ballroom. How will you make your partner comfortable without completely disregarding your own feelings? Compromise! I promise this will come in handy when you’re decorating your first home.

 

5. Finally, it’ll get you prepared for real life hardships. If you don’t think wedding planning is a hardship, ask anyone who’s every done a guest list.

 

 

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When all is said and done, you’ll feel so accomplished. #TeamYall

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The Bridesmaid Luncheon: Should You or Should You Not?

A wedding can sometimes feel like an endless stream of events. That’s great for event planners (yay!), but it can be daunting for the average couple. You have the engagement party, bridal shower(s), bachelor and bachelorette parties which can sometimes span an entire weekend, and the rehearsal dinner all before the awaited trip down the aisle. It can seem like a lot, but there’s one more event that you should consider adding to the pre-wedding event queue. The bridesmaid luncheon.

 

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What exactly is a bridesmaid luncheon? 

 

Traditionally, the bridal luncheon is a party that’s hosted by the bridesmaids for the bride which is completely separate and different than the bridal shower. This event is often considered a send off to the bride and is usually held a short time, often a few days or hours, before the wedding. The bridesmaid luncheon, however, is hosted by the bride, sometimes with the help of her mother, to honor the bridesmaids for all their hard work and contributions over the course of the wedding. This event is often held as a more modern alternative to the bridal luncheon.

 

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As with most things involving traditions, we always suggest that you can take what you want and leave the rest behind. Forego a luncheon and  host a brunch, dinner, or a trip to the spa instead. It’s up to you.

 

 

Why should I have one?

 

This doesn’t have to be an elaborate event, but it’s definitely worth it to try to squeeze it in. Here’s why:

 

1) Given that the event is so close to the wedding date, everyone’s already in town, so it’s a great time to schedule something that’s convenient for bridesmaids both near and far. It’s especially nice if a maiden couldn’t make the trip for all the other bridal festivities.

 

2) The time right before the wedding can be hectic. This bridesmaids luncheon could be a much needed time to just relax with just you and your closest friends/family before the big day.

 

3) On the day of the wedding, time is valuable and all the focus is usually on the bride. Why not honor your maidens on a day especially for them? A bridesmaid luncheon will provide a special time to give those good speeches along with the gifts. Bonus: You won’t have to worry about ruining your make up.

 

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Is it just for the bridesmaids and the bride?

 

According to Emily Post, the bridesmaids, flower girl and her mother, the brides mother, the grooms mother and of course the bride should be invited. However, it’s considered a nice gesture to also extend an invitation to the grandmothers and any sisters of the bride and groom who are not a part of the wedding party.  I say, do what you like! 🙂

 

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Being a bridesmaid is a selfless job. I think this is an awesome way to show that you appreciate all their hard work. I hope to see more events like this in the future. Mostly because I love girl time, but I’m also a BIG believer in thank yous.

 

Did you have a bridesmaid luncheon? Would you consider having one? 

 

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Keep Calm and Get Married: Advice from Your Wedding Planner

On the morning of your wedding, you will most likely wake up in a strange bed in an unfamiliar room. It will probably be in a luxury hotel you’ve never been to before. You’ll spend the morning alongside your closet friends romping around in matching robes and dancing to your favorite songs while waiting for your glam squad to arrive. You’ll have champagne for breakfast. At the specified time, a hair stylist and make-up artist will come to your suite and meticulously contour each of your faces, accentuating your best features and concealing any minor blemishes. By lunch time, just as your lashes have been perfectly placed and lips properly puckered, the photography crew will come in to document you stepping into your fabulous gown and later being draped in jewels and crowned with a sparkling tiara or stunning veil to finish off your look. Once the entire team is dressed and beautified, you’ll pass the time waiting for your chariot or limo to arrive by participating in a photoshoot in which you are the star! You’ll be whisked away to a cathedral nearby to exchange vows with the love of your life. After the I Dos have been said, you’ll share your first kiss in front of family and friends as they erupt in a grand congratulatory cheer. They will stand and photograph your exit as the two of you make your way outside. Later, you’ll dance the night away with everyone who loves you and eventually head to a hotel suite where you’ll collapse in exhaustion- likely too overjoyed to consummate the long awaited marriage.

 

In the morning you’ll wake beside the love of your life. You’re married! It may not feel real. In fact, it may feel like you just woke up from the most wonderful dream. A dream filled with an abundance of flowers, romantic candles, beautiful people and the most deliciously large cake you could ever imagine. Except you see your gown, slung haphazardly across a hotel room chair and your sparkling crown tossed on the floor alongside the most gorgeous sparkling pumps you may never wear again. Of course yesterday was real, but we’ve all heard other brides say how quickly it goes by and how they don’t remember much of the day. “It’s all just a blur.”  This is common and maybe even the norm. And I’ve always thought that it probably feels that way, because that’s how it was planned to feel. You wanted a fairy tale and a dream wedding and that’s exactly what you got. Something that’s so utterly perfect and so extremely exquisite that it feels as if it didn’t happen. You wanted it to be so special and so perfect that you don’t allow it to be a real moment in your life.

 

I know it’s probably odd coming from an industry professional, that I’m not willing to promise a perfect wedding. And that’s not saying that I am not capable of giving you awesome service and an event you can be proud of. The truth is I want your wedding to be awesome…almost as much as you do. Suite14A depends on your satisfaction. I want to help you plan and design a wonderful celebration to welcome you and your love to married life. I want it to be fun. I want it to be memorable and beautiful and a shining example of who you are as a couple. But I also want it to feel real and authentic. I want you to be able to give yourself permission to enjoy your wedding day even if everything doesn’t go exactly as planned. I want you to understand that the day is only special because you made it so by choosing it to take your vows. I want you to be cognizant enough to understand that it is perfect because of those vows you made and not because there were no incidents.

 

It will be grand. It will be lovely. It will be fun. And you’ll wake up in the morning beside the love of your life knowing for sure that you got married and it was more than just a dream. It was real.