As a very popular couple, we’re never without somewhere to go. That being said, we’ve seen the good, the bad, and the ugly as far as invites go. I really enjoy being a guest, but there are a few things that grind my gears about being invited by a less than stellar host. Though we commit to making every event a fun one, things would run more smoothly if only everyone had read this first.
Send an appropriate invitation: The invitation sets the tone for the event. While a text message may be cool when inviting a group to join you at a movie, it’s probably not the best option for a bridal shower. Be mindful of what your invitation says about your event. A text message may scream formal and “it’s no big deal,” while a printed invite with 3 coordinated enclosures says the exact opposite. Tip: A digital invite can be sent via text message. It’s super convenient and packs more punch than a typed message.
Allow your guests TIME to clear their schedules: It should be considered that weekends are prime time for events, so it’s only right that they fill up more quickly, especially when juggling the obligations of a growing family. With that being said, be kind enough to give your guests ample time to ensure that you’re first on their calendars. I’m here for spontaneity, but if it’s your birthday and you’d be sad if I couldn’t attend, please make it easy for me to say yes.
Give all the information: Be sure to give your guests every indication of what is expected of them as guests – what to wear, where to go, what time to get there, if there are any costs associated with parking or entry, or if guests are welcome. No one likes to be surprised about unexpected expenditures, or instructions after they’ve already arrived at the event.
Be READY and PRESENT at the start of the event: If that means leaving an hour early and getting to the restaurant first, always be prepared to receive your guests. It’s never fun to beat your host to their own event.
Be on call: In the time nearing the event, be near a phone so that guests who may be having trouble with directions or parking can get in touch with you. This is especially important if you all are going somewhere new or obscure in that there’s no big sign out front. Also, in the event of a wedding, make sure your vendors have a contact number for someone who is not the bride or groom and vice versa.
Thank your guests for coming: They could have been anywhere else (pajamas and Netflix are serious contenders in this day and age), but they decided to be with you. Be sure to express your thanks.
Be Gracious: Yes, even when someone shows with an unexpected guest. I know it will be tough, especially for dinner parties and other things where the count matters, but no need to embarrass them. The unexpected person may be just as uncomfortable as you are. This is a faux pas of the guest, not the person they chose to bring. Here’s where you work your dazzling hosting skills by making the most of this situation.
BONUS: Give guests a heads up about other guests if that info will beneficial to them. For instance if someone’s ex is showing with a new date or one of your guests has three heads, a gentle FYI relieves everyone of awkward situations. Trust me.
Be sure to check out the next post for tips from the other side of the invite. That one also includes some dope stationery options.
*Featured image by Eleven Note.